Originally posted by Turd Furgeson
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I could also tell him what he's facing to get diversion. I've never had a DUI, but I have reviewed the psychological profile tests that are given and how they are graded to determine the proper counseling during diversion. The classifications are (or used to be) social drinker, problem drinker, and alcoholic. They tend to conclude "alcoholic" pretty readily. CF is certain to be classified at least "problem drinker". A lot of the classification to "alcoholic" is dependent on where the individual places alcohol among their priorities. A scholarship basketball player apparently putting alcohol at a higher priority than basketball, which is his means of getting an education, will go off the charts from the county psycholigists.
CF is a problem drinker. He got a DUI. That's a problem, and that's all that's required to be classified as a problem drinker in the "official" classifications used in counseling. He's got some huge consequences from his actions.
There are some things right now that would be fairly destructive for him. Kicking him off the team or giving him a suspension that might cause him to transfer could tend to create a larger problem rather than resolving the one that exists. Making excuses like "everyone does it, it's no big deal" or "he just made a mistake - get over it" are incredibly destructive. Those excuses are already going through the mind of anyone trying to overcome any substance abuse problem. Reinforcing them tends to negate counseling and therapy aimed at getting drinking under control. People who provide those excuses are called enablers, because they enable those with a problem to find reasons to continue their problem.
I've picked people up from their mandatory jail weekend when they had 8 hours a day of counseling. I've had friends (now acquaintances) with anywhere from 4 to 6 DUI's. I've lost 4 former friends to alcohol abuse over the last 5 or so years. I've had a friend who owned a bar I went to regularly sponsor me to his AA group. I didn't really fit in with that crowd. I did learn that I never wanted to.
In college I was a dormie, so I lived with and hung out with mainly the jocks. Maybe that's why I didn't see the levels of alcohol consumption being described here as "normal".
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